Awkward or Not… It’s a Choice.

Have you ever felt awkward entering a room of people whom you don’t really know?

There might be a person or two there that you know, but for the moment you don’t see them. Or let’s say perhaps you DO see them. With a feeling of relief you approach their little circle. As you arrive, she (he) might give you a smile…. What?!..That’s it?! No introductions?! No acknowledgement that someone has joined the group?! Are you kidding me?!?

I’m sorry… but grown-ups should just know better. However, most don’t. I can’t tell you how many times in my 30 something years as an adult I have found myself in this very situation.  A prominent business coach once said, “the one with the healthiest self esteem initiates.” wow! Did this ever change my life! This is one of those “NewVoices” that you will be practicing to make permanent!

Imagine this… You walk into a party, business meeting, work-mingle, etc. You approach a group with maybe one person you know or a few slightly familiar faces. Give them a second or two. If no one else initiates an introduction, a hello, a  question — then your “New Voice” will say,”wow! I’m the most emotionally mature, healthiest person here! I’ll be the first to speak! “….Then go for it! Extend your hand, introduce yourself, then add, “I believe we met once before at such and such…” Or maybe you don’t know anyone at all. Introduce yourself and ask how they know the hostess (the bride, etc.); how they came to be a member of this organization, etc. The point is to make a game of it. By telling yourself that you’ve got it together better than anyone else in the room gives you the courage to jump right in.

And for you “young people” of all ages — I mean, who needs liquid courage to make conversation? You could be making a new friend or meeting Mister Right, and you didn’t waste the whole evening gathering courage!